What Can You Say?

Let us be honest because sometimes you just do not know what to say.  I am not talking about in a tough, stressful, or awkward situation because we all know what that is like, but in every day run of the mill conversations.  When you are with someone maybe you just met or do not know too well, and you are struggling on what to say next.  Rough right, mind is going a mile a minute, but it all sounds so cheesy to say out loud, do not worry everyone has been there.

I think this is where really listening comes into play.  When I say listening, I mean actual listening not just hearing.  When you are in a situation with people you do not really know I think you have to take this to the next level because if you do not then you have those awkward moments of “Uhhhh…”.  People tend to hint to or drop clues to things when they are talking.  It could be to something totally unrelated to the current topic or an angle of it that would be great to ask more about because it obviously means something to that person.  You will not however pick up on this if you are just hearing for your chance to speak while your brain is running through all the options for you to respond with.

Try for a moment to slow that brain down and pick up on those clues and dig a bit deeper into what the person or group is really saying.  If you do that you might learn some really cool things in general or maybe about the people that you are talking to that could lead to bigger or greater interactions with them.  People appreciate when they are really heard and when people ask questions to learn about the people or things they really care about.  So, play a game of conversation detective and ask honest and insightful questions to not only make the people you are interacting with feel good but to open yourself up to learn and grow.  Shine Bright and Much Love!

-JMAXX